Why you should forgive but not forget

Maybe many of us have already heard this:

"Forgive and forget."

But most of us would argue that it's just easy to say that than to actually do it or live by it. I've tried a lot of times to forgive and forget but the latter was just really hard to do. Here are some reasons why:

1. The bruises you receive leave you scars. Some may blend with your skin tone but some would just want to share the spotlight with you. The bottom line: these scars won't leave you (unless you try to have some plastic surgery). Yet again, some scars aren't marks left by physical violence or accident. They're there deep in your soul.

2. The hurtful incident should be a lesson learned. I was hurt and I had hurt. I was forgiven and I also forgave. But I never wanted that same mistake to happen again.

3. Forgetting will not resolve the issue/s; forgiving does. We may try to ignore the things that have hurt us because we wanted to escape from it. But the more we run away from it, the more this ghost haunt us.

Now, if you can't forgive someone because you can't (or maybe, don't want to) forget what he/she did to you, just try to remember at least one happy event both of you had. We must learn to focus more on the beautiful things they did to us than keep remembering how we were badly hurt. I heard also from my friend that when you are projecting positive vibes, you are also attracting more positive energies to come to you. Vice versa: when you project negative energies, you also magnet more negative energies.